Knowning The Known Unknown

In life whenever we meet people, we engage with a few for long term. Family, friends, classmates, colleagues, life partners, acquaintances and so on we meet many people in this lifetime. When we get this feeling of knowing someone well, it gives one ecstatic feeling of being own. To know someone often feels like you have the right over them somehow or they are entitled to you because you know them well. Be it any situation of life where you are hanging on, be it good times or struggling days or maybe the worst of all, if you know someone, you just know what they might be doing or what they might be thinking of about, or maybe what might be their next step in life or their future plans.

It does takes a lot of time in actually knowing someone well, to understand them well accordingly the way they are, the way the lead their lives, the way they enjoy things, the way they judge things, the way they criticize things, what makes them happy, what do they love the most, dislike the most, like the most, hate the most, their goals, ambitions, future plans and so many things associated with them.

Basically it is like learning a mathematical formula, where you just know this what sort of a person deals with what sort of problems or situations and you just need to learn how are you supposed to deal with it or help them in dealing with things around them!

But what if we are asked to forget all these mathematical formulas that we have been learning from so long?

What if we are given a completely new set of things totally to deal with this current situation because the things that we learnt are no longer valid for the person we knew...

And that's all because the person we knew before has suddenly changed!!

All these years months days invested in just trying to understand someone well, to know them well comes to be zero in just one go and every calculation that was done before comes to a nil.

Do we actually know the Art to Know the Known Unknown?
Is it actually even valid to know this?
Are we honestly supposed to be around this Known Unknown?
Is it okay to unlearn those things that we have been learning from so long and to learn about the new one whom we don't know at all or maybe we don't even want to know now anymore?

Its really confusing at times, even harder for many to deal with this thing. Change is certainly such a thing that creates a lot of buzz around many of us. Some can naturally be okay with it but not many can sustain such changes that actually changes their life upside down.

Certainly if your family people or your close friends or your life partner or would be life partner brings up certain changes in them that might be good according to them but it is actually giving you a whole new experience in accepting that or in other words if they bring certain change that changes your life completely then?

What can one do in such a situation? People gradually call it quits after such an event! Reason being to accept such a thing turns out to be very hard. And how to even accept it? What if today we are told to just forget all the things that we have been taught till now by our parents or school and college people? It really isn't that simple to forget things.

To unlearn a learnt chapter is really never that easy. It's more like sowing a seed, watching it grow up into a plant / tree and then just to forget that you really ever planted any plant / tree. Some people quite break after this sudden flip and it really gets harder for them to even trust or rely on people around because they start fearing of changes, uncertainty, unevenness & reliability. Its very much same like unloving someone whom you have loved for so long which is really a hard one if you really loved someone that hard.

To be able to accept such things, to be able to unlearn what you have learnt, to actually be knowing someone who is known but still unknown is really hard. It feels like a lie that was stabbed earlier on us but we are processing it now that we are actually stabbed with a lie because reality stands clear like a mirror of truth infront of the lies we were feed.

At last what exactly one can do is only two things - one just to accept this thing and never turn back to such people or second just to accept this thing and accept the person as it is in life forever.